Hi friend,
We all have a voice in our heads.
It narrates, critiques, reminds, worries, doubts. And for many of us, that voice isn’t very kind.
If you forgot something, messed up, or just didn’t feel like your best self today… what did that voice say?
“Why can’t you just get it together?”
“That was embarrassing.”
“You should be further along by now.”
Now pause and ask yourself:
Would you say those same words to someone you care about?
Probably not.
The truth is...
You are not your worst day. You are not your loudest mistake. And you are definitely not the sum of your harshest thoughts.
Self-talk is powerful. The words we repeat—out loud or silently—become the lens through which we see ourselves. And too often, we speak to ourselves in ways we’d never speak to anyone else.
But here's the good news: that voice in your head? You can soften it. You can retrain it. You can make it a little more compassionate.
Try This:
Next time you catch yourself thinking something critical, pause and ask:
“Would I say this to a friend?”
If the answer is no, rewrite it.
Speak to yourself gently. With understanding. With patience. With love.
Try this instead:
“I’m learning.”
“That didn’t go how I hoped, but I’m still growing.”
“I’m doing the best I can—and that’s enough.”
Over time, that softer voice becomes more natural.
And life feels a little lighter.
Self-talk is also a kind of mantra. And many of us are repeating ones that only cause harm. In last week’s post, I shared the power of mantras—simple phrases that help ground and guide us. Read about it here.
You deserve your own kindness.
Until next time,
Nathan
Creator of Serenity Tabs
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